We often times get busy and realize that our days are flying by. We try to give ourselves a little time at the end of the day to reflect on what happened.
Option 1 We easily recall what went wrong throughout the day, we even think of things we could have said, should have said or even did not say. After those reflections we try to go to eventually sleep.
Do you then sleep restfully? Yes_ No_ Is guilt your primary emotion? Yes _No_
Option 2 A different approach to your daily look-back could be to only look for the good things that happened throughout the day.
Pile up those thoughts. Recall those many things you did that helped someone feel better somehow.
Think of those many kind words you gave, or those smiles you gave to onlookers as you passed each other in hallways, or on route to the car.
How about remembering those pleasantries that you received from others throughout your day?
Were some of those unanticipated?
Do you feel yourself smiling as you recall those happy moments of your day?
Do you agree that this option 2 approach to your daily-recall could help you sleep better, or even change your mood?
Is one of your life goals to be happy? Which approach to my daily- recall options as spell out above would help you reach your goal best? I assume you are choosing option 2
How and when do you plan to implement option 2 during your daily recall time? Feeling happy is a great goal to work on because the challenge to get negative comes to us so quickly without constant effort.
I would like to offer a couple of suggestions:
Stay connected only to people who offer positive thoughts, ideas, and solutions
Always keep bubbles at your bedside. When negative thoughts surface, take out the bubbles and imagine putting each of those negative thoughts into a bubble, when you blow, watch those thoughts dissipate and leave your mind. Imagine them all out of your head and are no longer a part of you.
Imagine all of the newly vacated space that is now open for positive thoughts. Let those thoughts flow into your mind.
Let me know what you think about all of this.
Only you can define your own success. Go for it! Feel the relief when you reach your goal consistently.
Are you at the point of thinking that all of this self-care talk might have a point to consider? No one wants to hurt one’s self. No one wants to learn that SOMETHING COULD HAVE BEEN DONE earlier and now it is too late. Your life would have been better either physically, spiritually, mentally, psychologically, educationally or otherwise if you had taken care of yourself better. Each day brings new opportunity and today can be your day to start taking better and conscious care of yourself. Self -care for yourself can mean consciously planning to do some simple actions throughout your day which can uplift your mood. Do you have anything in mind? Do you need some ideas? Here are a few suggestions to try:
Take a few minutes to recall a fun-family vacation you took in your youth. Laugh or at least feel yourself smiling again
slowly wash your face
Go brush your teeth
Put on lipstick
Do a deep breathing minute
Listen to calm.com for 15 seconds
Quietly just sit in a chair for 2 minutes, feel the back of the chair supporting your back. Enjoy!
How about sharing some of your ideas with our readers?
This statement can be overwhelming if given serious thought because we usually like to blame any influence beyond our self as cause for lack of success. Yet, we find it difficult to accept success when it happens because of the infrequency with which we feel it. Why is that?
The truth is who defines your success? You do! You may have experienced someone saying “good job”,
when you did not feel that you had just performed your best attempt at it and you could not accept the praise. This is a true example of knowing who defines success.
Let’s take a minute and recall a time that you did perform at your best and it was not appreciated or recognized. How did you feel then? The question is, did you allow someone else’s comment to change your thought orfeeling about your best performance? Why would you let that happen?
An important fact to remember is that you control your thoughts, feelings and emotions until you turn them over to the control of someone else.
Are you starting to see that your future depends on what you do in the present?
Take a minute to recall a time or two when such an experience happened?
What would/could you do now when faced with the same experience?
Would you then feel better worse or the same if you actually implemented this new control?
How about sharing some of your ideas with our readers?
Are you at the point of thinking that all of this self-care talk might have a point to consider? No one wants to hurt one’s self. No one wants to learn that SOMETHHING COULD HAVE BEEN DONE earlier and now it is too late. Your life would have been better either physically, spiritually, mentally, psychologically, educationally or otherwise if you had taken care of yourself better.
Each day brings new opportunity and today can be your day to start taking better and conscious care of yourself. Self -care for yourself can mean consciously planning to do some simple actions throughout your day which can uplift your mood. Do you have anything in mind? Do you need some ideas? Here are a few suggestions to try:
Take a few minutes to recall a fun-family vacation you took in your youth. Laugh or at least feel yourself smiling again
slowly wash your face
Go brush your teeth
Put on lipstick
Do a deep breathing minute
Listen to calm.com for 15 seconds
Quietly just sit in a chair for 2 minutes, feel the back of the chair supporting your back. Enjoy!
How about sharing some of your ideas with our readers?
This statement can be overwhelming if given serious thought because we usually like to blame any influence beyond our self as cause for lack of success. Yet, we find it difficult to accept success when it happens because of the infrequency with which we feel it. Why is that?
The truth is who defines your success? You do! You may have experienced someone saying “good job”,
when you did not feel that you had just performed your best attempt at it and you could not accept the praise. This is a true example of knowing who defines success.
Let’s take a minute and recall a time that you did perform at your best and it was not appreciated or recognized. How did you feel then? The question is, did you allow someone else’s comment to change your thought orfeeling about your best performance? Why would you let that happen?
An important fact to remember is that you control your thoughts, feelings and emotions until you turn them over to the control of someone else.
Are you starting to see that your future depends on what you do in the present?
Take a minute to recall a time or two when such an experience happened?
What would/could you do now when faced with the same experience?
Would you then feel better worse or the same if you actually implemented this new control?
How about sharing some of your ideas with our readers?
FINDING YOUR RIGHT RELATIONSHIP CAN NOT ONLY TRANSITION YOUR LIFE FROM GOOD TO GREAT IT CAN ALSO GO FROM TOLERATION TO HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY.
We all seek connection with persons who are supportive, honest, understanding, and life-giving. Some relationships we get involved with are not chosen but get imposed on us such as colleagues, family, and neighbors to name a few. What needs to happen so these relationships succeed, become tolerable and even enjoyable?
If you want to begin developing your relationship-happiness the answers to these questions might help:
What am I looking for in any relationship?
Am I looking for a long- term relationship?
Am I looking for a social connection only?
Why is seeking a relationship important to me now?
Where have I been looking?
Why am I not finding what I am looking for?
Am I ready to now look in right places?
How will I feel when I find the right relationship?
Am I ready to start a healthy search?
Will I let Ida join with me with this process now?
In the workplace
Working relationships are crucial during any employment. When stress develops, we must remedy the situation as quickly as possible
What is it about this relationship that creates stress?
Is the stress within me or between us?
How can I make this colleague or person(s) more acceptable to me?
What common ground can we share?
How can I comfortably address this issue?
Speak directly?
Learn how the other feels about our relationship?
Is there something specific that is affecting our communication?
Today we can take a few minutes to continue our self-care process by thinking about where you might be heading in the next week or longer? As we know that in order to go somewhere either physical, mentally, spiritually, we need to have a point of arrival. So often, responsibilities take us places we had not planned on going. We just drifted there. Can you tie into this?
What I wish to have us consider together is for you to provide your answers to where am I physically, mentally, spiritually going today? Who or what will be navigating you today? Of course, some situations determine some of our time and energy but what can you really control today? How do you plan to control events and situations that you will encounter today? Are you willing to control your time and self today? Why? Why not? Who will do it instead? Why?
For those energies which get spent out of our control, this is the time to face it and reflect on your attitude about those actions and situations. Originally, you agreed to something, you have been doing it and doing it well.
Scenario: You noticing that continuing to do an agreed upon commitment is causing you a bit of discomfort but you fear that if you reevaluate your decision that you already agreed on, but are now willing to cut down the frequency, or just become less available to continue, the receiver may get angry and or disappointed. Are you willing to face consequences if you make your reassessment of time or energy known? Why? Why not? Are you ready to offer alternative solutions prior to making your change?
Once again let us remember that we each control our own thoughts, feelings and emotions. You cannot control thoughts feelings or emotions of anyone else. This may be the time to begin navigating your true self.
Let’s help each other by sharing solutions any of us may have used successfully? Give those involved advanced notice of the change you wish to make. This can help decrease the feeling of abandonment.
Psychological distress as a health care worker is inevitable. It is not that we like it or seek it out, it just happens. Maintaining elevated stress levels affect every aspect of our being. Usually, we can’t prevent it from happening but what we can do for ourselves is to remember is that we can always change the effect it has on us. With selfcare we can begin to check in on ourselves more often and we can start to make the necessary changes quickly. Just ask yourself who controls my thoughts? Who controls my emotions? Who controls my feelings? If you answered I do to each question, you are correct. From here, the challenge begins. With no one to blame but self, responsibility can burst your bubble.
Questions you may ask yourself is:
Why do I give people my power over my thoughts? By giving up your power, you are setting up yourself for misunderstanding. Why is that? The truth is that no one can make you think anything. Your thoughts are only yours. No other person has had or will ever have your experiences as you have. The same goes for you emotions and feelings.
What can you do to relieve your stress?
Figuratively, step back and look at your thoughts, feelings, and emotions involved in the event . Asses their validity. Keep them, yet look at how additional thoughts could be more helpful. This can occur quickly. You have the answer within yourself already. Pick a thought, feeling or emotion that you wish to release. Then, take in a long deep breadth while counting to 5, hold in that breadth while counting to 4, then exhale slowly while counting to 6. While exhaling imagine stress exiting from your body. Feel the immediate relief. If you do that 3 times, you can feel energized again!
Other suggestions:
Recall those great outcomes that you achieve today
Count them
Take time to recognize them all
Each one has its meaning for you Acknowledge your limitation and be glad to have them. No one is great, perfect, etc. all the time.
As health care providers we always put the needs of others first.
Although you have been reading about, speaking about, listening to others talk about self- care, you still have not yet incorporated it into your daily actions. We do not need to discuss why it has not happened. Let’s just look at how you can get started today or even better, right now.
Your myriads of excuses are no longer necessary. Instead I wish to suggest these 3 statements:
I used to dodge doing self-care.
I no longer need to dodge it anymore.
Starting today I do self-care daily.
How painful are these three statements for you to say?
Come on, say them and mean them. These sentences actually address two frequently used excuses for not practicing self-care. One, don’t know why, I just don’t do it. Second, I’ll start doing it next week.
There are scores of actions to implement. Most actions neither require much additional time in your day, nor do they require additional expenses.
Suggested Actions:
Take the stairs down to your car as you leave work, and skip using the elevator. Note the change in your breathing.
Take s full body stretch privately in the bathroom before leaving your job.
Renew your lipstick application.
Look in the mirror at work and quietly give yourself a smile which will be returned. Repeat. Another is sure to follow.
Practice saying no while looking at yourself in the mirror. The more you practice it, the easier it becomes. Remember to say it with determination. Your courage will be strengthened. I hope this blog will inspire and motivate you to show yourself some self-love. You may even influence your family, colleagues, and clients. The whole world will benefit.
No encounter regardless of reason will find someone mentioning a desire for changing a behavior in their life. We all have a dream of seeing ourselves living life in a different role, acting differently than usual, or doing something different from what we are currently doing. Why does that happen? Could it be because our dreams are telling us that change is possible now? Could it be that we need to make changes in our life because we are not living out our purpose in life and our happiness is being challenged?
Last month most of us made at least one resolution. This year we were really going to keep it.
Day 1, 2, 3, passed and we did it. Then, week one and two passed and we stated to slightly lower our commitment. By now, where does the importance of your resolution(s) rest? Mine is non-existent.
How did that happen? I had been so committed! The truth is that I tried to make too much, too big a change which could not be sustained. Changing behaviors is possible but to obtain long term results we must start with making small changes consistently. Have you had a similar experience? What happens now? Let tomorrow be your new start day. Today set up your daily small- step plan for the week and then for next week and on and on. This can help your progress. You’ve got this!
Are you struggling with those festering feelings of doubt, restlessness, being stuck, overwhelmed, or hopelessness? If you have any or all of these feelings, there is hope.
Whatever you are feeling, you are not alone. Hundreds of my clients continuing feeling amazed at their level of new or renewed confidence self- control of their life . Many report not only being able to tolerate undesired stress but also feel master of its effect in their life. A huge success includes a client who lost 57 lbs. and kept it off for over 3 years and is still counting. These successes have not only been experienced by women, but men and children as well.
Why not say goodbye to feeling lightheaded, controlled by panic attacks, or feeling that you could not breathe, or continue experiencing lack of restful sleep. Just call me learn to calmly regain control of your life.
Hypnosis Focus Now was originally founded to provide hypnosis to adults seeking stress relief leading to a more productive life. Experience has lead to our need to offer additional services. Now at IdaGregoireRSM.com we also provide Life Coaching. Initially, services were to one on one. Now, our services are also rendered to groups/teams. A few of our client-results include: building self acceptance, learning new skills, losing 57 lbs., driving with less fear, feeling happier on the job, living in the long, sought after happier relationship, and even experiencing true happiness again.
Why not tap into the awesome power of your subconscious mind to create and maintain long lasting, positive changes in your life. If you’ve got a goal, Ida can help get you there.
Do you feel worried? Do you feel that you are no longer controlling your own life and everybody else is controlling it for you? For real? That’s how you feel? Do you like feeling this way? I assume that your answer is NO! NO! NO! Trust me, there is hope. Change can occur. How do you feel about change when it come into your life willfully?
When it just come in unknowingly at first?
Change can actually become a pleasant experience based on your attitude about change. This is for real.
Let’s walk through a behavior that you wish to change.
Name it.
Why do you want to change it?
When do you want to change it?
How will your life be changed by losing it?
Can there be negative impact by changing it?
Who can support in making this change?
When will you ask them for help/support?
What if they say no?
Hopefully, you can begin to see the complexity of achieving real change. Change can actually occur when you decide to change your attitude toward making this change. Your subconscious mind is your best friend. With a bit of prodding it is what really helps most in making a lasting behavior change. Your subconscious mind acting in coordination with your conscious mind will not only allow the change to occur but will also make the change enduring.
